Using writing to help you get unstuck in life:
With 2016 coming to an end and a new year beginning it is a
perfect time to reflect dear readers on what your road blocks are and how to
overcome them. In the spirit of that, I have given you some tips that have
worked for me in the past, enjoy and good luck.
Do you ever feel like life is nothing but a bunch of tests
thrown at you by the universe with a few positive moments placed in-between to
make you feel that all is not lost? I think this is probably true for most
people. You may look around and say, “Well I have it better than those people
so I can’t complain.” Or you may say, “No one has it as bad as me and no one
understands.” Both thoughts are valid but not really true. For case one, just
because some people have it worse than you in your opinion that doesn’t make
what you are going through any less painful. Give credit where credit is due.
You are dealing with some tough stuff, admit that and feel proud of yourself
for admitting it.
In case two
maybe you do have it extremely bad right now but does that mean that no one
will be able to empathize with you? True, they may not know exactly what you
are going through but they can still listen to you, feel for you, and help you
if you let them.
We are supposed to be learning lessons by living on this
earth right? So what are these tough things that you are going through trying
to teach you?
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| what am I supposed to learn? | Writing may help you figure out what you are supposed to be learning and it may help sort through your feelings and help you gain more empowerment over your life. |
You are probably saying, “But I’m not a writer.” You don’t
need to be. Do you have a pen and paper? Then you can write. How do you start?
Why should you write?
1.) Are
your emotions running wild lately? Do you constantly have thoughts that you
would like to verbalize or things you wish you could say to people? Write them
all down. Doing an emotional “dump” on a blank piece of paper can feel very
freeing, almost like once it’s written down it is let go from your soul and
mind. This leaves room for positive thoughts, feelings and messages from the
universe to flow in.
2.) Have
you recently had a fight or disagreement with someone and walked away before
you said all that you needed to say? Do you have things you wish you could say
to one person, your significant other, your boss, your co-worker, your parents?
Write them a “letter” saying exactly what you think and feel, in the end it is
up to you whether you want to share it with them. Even if you shred it or burn
it the act of writing it down can help free you of these plaguing thoughts and
feelings.
3.) I
believe that you can ask advice from the universe to help you on your life’s
path. Most people do this through meditating, but you can also do it through
writing. Start by doing some deep breathing and trying to calm your mind. Write
down a question or an issue that you want guidance for or just write general
guidance. Try to be calm and listen with your mind. Write down whatever comes
to you, words, feelings, colors or pictures, without judgment do not even think
about what you are writing just write it down. Then you can re-read what you
wrote and look for patterns and links to find clarity.
4.) Journaling/blogging-
Keep a journal or writing blogs on different topics can be a great way to
express yourself and physically see your ideas take shape. In the case of
blogging it can help you gain feedback from others and feel like they
understand and that you are not alone in what you are going through. It can
even be helpful for simple things like if you want to buy a certain item but
don’t know where to look. Sometimes asking others via the internet is a great
way to get ideas that you never thought of. So explore what’s out there. These
sites are a great way to put your opinion out there and have your voice heard.
5.) Writing
to clarify dreams-I am lucky in that I always have very vivid dreams and I
always remember them but I often have a hard time figuring out what they mean.
Once, I was feeling lost in with my life and at that time I had a reoccurring
dream that I was in a house that I didn’t recognize. It was dark, and I was
afraid because I could feel another presence there that I couldn’t see but I
could feel it watching me. As I walked through the dark house I suddenly felt a
tug upwards and the invisible thing lifted me in the air by my shirt and pulled
me up to the ceiling. Not only could I not get down my legs were waiving wildly
in the air but I was also being choked by my shirt and I was grasping at it
frantically. Needless to say, when I woke up from that dream I assumed it meant
something terrible. I was wrong. Finally after having this dream for the third
time I Googled “dream meanings” and found a website dreammoods.com where you
can look up subjects of dreams. I looked up ghosts & lifting, this is what
I got.
Ghosts-To
dream that a ghost is trying to kill you implies that you are ready to confront
your past and your repressed emotions, despite how painful it may be, you are
ready to move forward in your life and leave the past behind. If a ghost is
choking you in a dream then it means some past situation is preventing you from
fully expressing yourself.
Lift-To
dream you are being lifted represents you are rising above an unpleasant
situation or issue.
Whether or not this dream actually did mean those things is
not the point. I felt like the descriptions were very true to what I was going
through and feeling at that time. Seeing them clearly written made me feel less
scared and anxious.
If you know
you dream but have a hard time remembering them, try keeping a notebook next to
your bed and a flashlight. When you wake up try to write down immediate
thoughts, feelings or themes from the dream. If a certain color is vivid write
that down too. Then do some exploring, look up online different websites and
see what you find, it may prove very helpful.
So we can see that writing may have some good benefits and
may provide some clarity when you are feeling stuck in life. So remember
this…You have to choose one path or another if you see a fork in the road. One
path may lead to civilization and one may lead to a dead end, you don’t know.
You can ask for help before you make the decision but in the end, you are the
one making the choice for which path to travel. The key is, whatever choice you
make, live with that choice, accept that choice, feel proud in the knowledge
that you made it and are going to continue to walk the path you chose no matter
the outcome. No one is choosing for you, you are not a victim; you are an empowered
person with free will to make a choice. Until next time readers, remember,
writing=happiness ;)
“I totally realized fate…there IS fate, but it only takes
you so far because once you’re there it is up to you to make it happen.” (Can’t
Hardly Wait, the movie)
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